Do you suspect your partner is cheating on you? No More Lies!
We understand this is a very difficult and emotional time for you. We also understand how important it is to know the truth.
First and foremost, if you haven’t already, NEVER CONFRONT A SUSPECTED CHEATER! This will only cause them to be sneakier, and therefore more difficult to catch.
We are professional investigators and have the experience, knowledge, equipment, and know-how to catch any cheater.
Leave the investigating up to us and trust your instincts and intuition.
By using discreet methods of investigation that have been developed with over 24 years of experience, East Coast Investigations can confidentially determine if your partner is being unfaithful and get you the much-needed evidence that will not only provide you with the peace of mind you deserve, but also help you to decide whether or not to pursue divorce, increase your chances for alimony, and help with child custody litigation in the court systems of New York State.
We can also refer you to an attorney, should you decide you need one based on our results.
If nothing else, our evidence will give you the confidence and peace of mind to make an educated decision in which direction to go with your life and current relationship. There is nothing worse than constantly being lied to.
Once it is determined with whom your partner is cheating, we offer full background services on that individual. We can tell you if s/he is married, has children, has a criminal history, where s/he works, what s/he drives, etc. Should you decide to litigate your case, we can also serve this individual, forcing them to appear in court and answer to our evidence.
NO MORE LIES!
Top Signs of Cheater
The following are red flags that we have collected from our clients and other various sources to help you determine whether you need to seek the professional help of East Coast Investigations regarding a cheating partner.
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The following are red flags that we have collected from our clients and other various sources to help you determine whether you need to seek the professional help of East Coast Investigations regarding a cheating partner.
Never confront a suspected cheater. This will only cause them to be more careful and make them more difficult to catch. It is imperative that neither you nor your family, friends, or co-workers try to obtain answers on your own. You could be charged with stalking and/or jeopardize your entire case. Leave the investigating up to East Coast Investigations.
It is important to remember that although these may be obvious signs of a cheating partner, there are also factors in our everyday life that could lead to some of these same red flags, such as drug use, gambling problems, work overload, heavy stress, etc. The following is to be used as a starting point only. Then it is up to you to hire East Coast Investigations to find out what is really going on.
Intuition:
- Your partner stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
- Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.
- You find intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that are meant for someone else.
Your partner is acting out of character:
- When your partner shows up without his/her wedding ring or suddenly stops wearing it and makes lame excuses as to why.
- When they break their established routine at work and home for no apparent or logical reason; erratic behavior.
- When your partner becomes suddenly forgetful and you have to repeat yourself several times; their thoughts are obviously elsewhere.
- When they appear distant, show a lack of interest, or develop an unexplained aloofness that wasn’t there before.
- When their behavior just doesn’t add up.
- When your partner sleeps with her purse/cell phone by the bed, or sneaks out of the house.
- When your spouse suddenly starts completely ignoring you and not listening to what you are saying -OR- when they suddenly become overly nice…more so than usual.
- When they encourage you to have a social life and go places out of town, and it seems like they’re trying to get you “out of the house.”
- When your partner begins to intentionally look at or flirt with the opposite sex when in the past, this is something they would not have done.
Birth Control:
- When you find birth control pills in the medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy -OR-
- When you find condoms in the car or in his pockets, and you already use an alternate method of birth control.
Showering/Cologne:
- When he or she leaves the house in the morning smelling like their usual fragrance and returns in the evening smelling like something else.
- When they arrive home and head straight into the shower or bath, and they work an office job.
- When your partner’s clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or aftersha used by the opposite sex.
- When he or she has worn the same fragrance for years, and suddenly they are wearing something new and wearing MUCH more than usual.
Uncomfortable Around You:
- When your mutual friends start acting strangely toward you, because they either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible partner you are.
- When your partner’s co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence, because either they know about the affair or have heard horror stories to justify it.
- When your partner seems less comfortable around you and is “touchy” and easily moved to anger.
- When your partner avoids social events with you, as if they want to cover up that they are with you.
Email signs:
- When your partner sets up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it.
- When your partner spends all their time on email, checking email, or manipulating their email somehow.
- When your partner suddenly deletes all emails from the email account (and it’s not just a clean-up) and in the past they used to let them accumulate.
- When they delete an email the minute it comes in, and then delete the trash to make sure you don’t see it.
Cell phone Signs-This is a BIG one!
- When s/he buys a cell phone and doesn’t let you know about it.
- When your partner suddenly deletes all messages from the voicemail when they accumulated in the past.
- When they suddenly delete all caller IDs from the phone so you can’t see them.
- When s/he sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to the office.
- When you aren’t allowed to ever look at or use their cell phone, and they go to great lengths to make certain their cell is not answered by you.
- When your partner is secretive about their cell phone and it is on their person 24/7, and they are on it talking or texting that whole time.
- When they receive bizarre text messages from friends you never realized they knew–in other words having ‘pretend’ names in their phone who are, in reality, the other person they don’t want you to know about.
Computer Signs:
- When they stay up to “work” or “play a game” on the computer after you go to bed. Excessive internet usage, especially late at night, is a red flag.
- When your partner will not allow you access to their computer or they suddenly shut down the computer when you walk into the room.
- When they use a password to protect their laptop or computer from prying eyes.
- When she or he warily guards access to their chatrooms, chat logs, games, Facebook page, or other social media.
- When your partner has unusual sites showing in the “browser history” (such as “adultfriendfinder” or “ashleymadison”), or erases their history after each session.
Things Are Just Different at Home:
- When your partner raises hypothetical questions such as, “Do you think it’s possible to love more than one person at a time?”
- When they have a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry (and they never have before) and it seems like they are trying to either find or hide something.
- When your partner loses attention in the activities in the home and seems forgetful, distracted, or like they don’t care.
- When he/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home…including the children.
- When you notice that your partner loses their ability and desire to show the children the attention they need or a lack of desire to do any maintenance or chores around the house, e.g., lawn care, painting, cleaning the garage, house repairs, etc. They might turn this around on you at the same time and accuse you of never doing anything or treating the child/children badly.
- When they are always tired or demonstrate a noticeable lack of energy or interest in the relationship.
- When they sleep on the sofa some of the night.
- When you two don’t go to bed together and they tell you not to wait up when you have always done so.
- When your partner suddenly asks about your schedule more often than usual–wanting to know where you’ll be and when.
- When they talk to you, they treat you abusively or with disdain, disrespect, or excessive sarcasm. Or. . . they may begin to find fault in everything you do in an attempt to justify their affair.
- When your spouse is exceedingly critical and sometimes mocking you.
- When your spouse becomes “accusatory,” asking if you are being true to him/her, usually out of guilt.
- When they begin to speak more and more harshly to you, or are more sarcastic. Sometimes this is just an attempt to justify their cheating… or to give them an excuse to storm out of the room/house.
- When you notice that they are reluctant to kiss you or accept your affection and/or they criticize you for showing attention.
- When your partner ignores or criticizes your loving behavior and thoughtful ways. Example: “Why are you so lovey-dovey? I’m just not like that.”
Lots and Lots of Changes:
- When s/he joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program and “hated” exercise before.
- When your partner buys new, sexy underwear and you never see it.
- When they have a sudden preoccupation with their appearance.
- Her: When she gets becomes more careful about her appearance or dresses provocatively to “go grocery shopping” or to “get her hair done.” She may also show up with a sudden change of hair style. Him: When he showers, shaves (cologne, deodorant, etc.) and dresses up more than usual to “go out with his buddies” or to “go fishing.”
- When your spouse begins to make sudden and excessive purchases of clothing or an unexplained change in clothing style (for example, from business professional to steampunk).
- When they show a sudden interest in a different type of music that they always hated before.
Telephone Mannerisms That Are Different:
- When your partner receives “mysterious” phone calls that don’t seem to make sense–and when you ask who called, they say, “No one,” “Wrong number,” or “Why do you care?”
- When YOU get an increasing number of hang-ups or “wrong numbers” when you pick up the phone especially if the caller hangs up after hearing your voice and doesn’t speak. Generally when a person dials a “wrong” number, they will at least ask, “Is Fred there?” before hanging up.
- When your phone bills show unexplained toll or long distance charges. Often you’ll find one phone number listed excessively.
- When s/he hurriedly picks up the phone to answer it before you do.
- When they leave the room to talk on the phone.
- When your partner whispers while on the phone.
- When s/he deletes the information (name and phone number) from “caller ID”.
- When they behave differently or end the telephone call abruptly when you enter the room… or appear to hang up quickly.
- When your partner tells you to contact him or her at a different telephone number (they don’t want you calling while they’re with the other person).
Automobile-Related Signs That Something is Up:
- When the passenger’s seat is adjusted differently than you had left it.
- When your partner takes the child seat and/or children’s toys out of the car for no particular reason.
- When you find suspicious items in the car like phone numbers, receipts, lipstick, condoms, or strange hairs in the vehicle.
- When they begin to keep a change of clothes hidden in the trunk of the car or an unusual amount of clothes changes at the gym.
- When the car has unexplainable mileage or a lack of additional mileage. For example, if your husband states that he went out of town yet the odometer indicates that only a distance of 25 miles had been driven. Conversely, if he says that he’s only been to the office that day, yet their odometer shows many more miles had been driven, this too, could be a significant factor.
- When s/he “goes to the store for groceries” or “goes to get some gas” or “goes to the bank” (a task that should take just a few minutes) and comes home 5 hours later.
- When you notice increased gas purchases that are inconsistent with the amount of miles on the car.
Paper Trails of a Cheating Spouse:
- When you find credit card receipts for gifts you didn’t receive -OR- your credit card bills itemize gifts you didn’t receive (such as florist or jewelry).
When you find the credit card receipts showing purchases from places unknown to you or that seem suspect -OR- when your credit card bill itemizes odd places. - When you see an increase in ATM withdrawals on your bank statement, especially those from out of town.
- When you find ATM receipts bearing a time/date stamp from a city you don’t recognize. [Cheating costs money! To play you must pay.]
- When they begin to volunteer to go to the post office, rushes to check the mail before you do or opens up a new P.O. box perhaps without even telling you.
- When unusual phone numbers appear on the phone bill.
- When the duration and time of the calls on the phone bill appear excessive.
When they are secretive about their cell phone bill or they start to pay it themselves. - When you notice business travel or other deductions on their expense account for travel or other expenses of which you were not aware.
Sex Tip-offs That Something’s Wrong:
- When s/he is no longer interested in sex, or s/he makes excuses for its infrequency.
- When your partner starts to request kinky or other erotic sexual activity (behavior) that you’ve never done before, including watching porn.
- When they show a “new talent” in the bedroom (that they might have learned from the individual with whom they’ve been cheating).
- When s/he appears reluctant to kiss you, or show affection toward you.
- When your spouse continues giving poor excuses for why they’re not in the mood to make love.
- When they have unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.
- When s/he suddenly wants more sex, more often.
Work-related Signs That They May Be Cheating:
- When s/he works longer hours, more frequently.
- When they supposedly work a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
- When they change their established routine with no apparent reason.
- When s/he begins discouraging you from calling him or her at work.
- When your spouse is often “unavailable” when you try to call him or her at work.
- When they returns calls long after you leave a message for him or her.
- When s/he prefers to attend work functions (or any events) alone and tries to discourage you from attending.
- When your partner takes more trips for business reasons and even refuses to let you drive him or her to the airport.
- When you find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work – but supposedly worked on those days.
- Your partner is away from home, either nights or on trips, more so than in the past.
- When the amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
- When they are late arriving home from work and always have an excuse ready.
- When s/he claims to be stressed with work problems when questioned about their odd behavior.
Things you’ll hear:
- “We are just friends.”
- “I need you to respect my privacy.”
- “I love you but I’m not in love with you.”
- “I need some space to figure out my feelings.”
The following are red flags that we have collected from our clients and other various sources to help you determine whether you need to seek the professional help of East Coast Investigations regarding a cheating partner.